As we all know, some people for various reasons have decided completely deactivate their Smart Matches. Unfortunately, people who are being matched with them are unaware of this and may have many unrequited SM confirmations and waiting for something which will never happen.
My suggestion is to have some kind of mark next to a tree when it comes up under SM to let us know that the owner of that site is ignoring SM. That way, we can "ignore" their trees, which will cut off a lot of our SM backlog and save us work because that tree won't come up with new SM anymore. I don't care what it would look like, just some sort of unmistakable mark which tells everyone else not to bother with that tree.
And what about me? I have only viewed and managed SmartMatches in Family Tree Builder. So are all these people patiently or otherwise waiting for a reply via the website? Sad because I won't talk to them? Looking for big green ticks? Or does Family Tree Builder notify people that I have looked at and evaluated their match? I don't know!!
I did look at the web based system today and found lots of matches still waiting from ages ago. And frankly I think I will just go back to Family Tree Builder matching. On the web I found, in the family section of the match, a lot of names of (say) siblings, ladies who now had a married name. But that is all the information I got, and I had to insert (just) these new names manually in the tree. Using the merge facility in FBT, even 'step by step' which is much more reliable than 'automatic', I would have updated all this ancillary, family, information (as well as that of the main person) very quickly and easily and with all the detail that is on the person's 'card'.
So are all these people patiently or otherwise waiting for a reply via the website?
Yes. At least I am.
Or does Family Tree Builder notify people that I have looked at and evaluated their match?
I doubt it, and I hadn't thought of that. Since you can't make adjustments online if you work with the FTB. They just don't have a consistant way of working with SM.
There must be a way to make pretty much everyone happy here. Just having info on what is happening. I would be happy just knowing the reason people who update their tree everyway and still don't use the SM. I even contacted someone that I had a bunch of waiting SM with, and he didn't even respond to my contact. He still updates the tree everyday, though.
I am having a try at updating the quick and easy SmartMatches that look as though they won't have 'added information' on them, via the web; and leaving the others so that I can do any actual updating/merging of my tree using the Family Tree Builder merge facility.
And I have noticed that on the web I have well over three thousand matches I have confirmed that have not been replied to/ confirmed by the other party. But most of them are probably from the person who has generously made her tree available so that I and others could build theirs, she probably doesn't want to go through all the effort of re-confirming hundreds of my matches. She should probably turn off my tree for this stuff since it is only a formality, sort of, between us two.
Hi. No, I don't want to be ignored, I would love to know if we have tree members in common. I was just talking about not being a pain to my cousin; I have been able to merge people, lots of them, hundreds probably, from her tree and she doesn't need to have me cluttering up her systems with stuff she already knows about. I will look at not checking the box ('send a message to the owner of the other tree... about this match') when I merge from her tree. Betcha you don't find any of my family on your tree...