To get a smart match (which you need for a merge) you need more than a name, which is all that the parent smart match provides. Neither does it say whether the name is forename or surname which smart match seems to care about. The only way forward then is to try find someone with a reliable tree and compare the trees manually, which is to say it a bit careful; cumbersome
I have attached an image illustrating the problem.
The reason that we don't have this option is mainly for security reasons, so that people don't copy whole trees and lots of information without permission. Like you said, if you want to copy relatives from a tree, you need to contact the owner of the site, request a membership and copy the details manually.
I don't completly buy that explaination. With the suggested feature, it just makes what is already possible easier. If you compare trees you dont need to request a membership to see the members (if the site is open). And if the site is open, why would we need permission?
The explanation for not allowing copying of relatives from matched trees does not explain the negative policy. MyHeritage could enable the feature and make it's use contingent on mutual consent of the managers of both trees.
The current policy makes the long lists of "smartmatches" pretty much a nuisance for me.
Ancestry.com allows ou to copy relatives in a very easy way... I am very dissapointed myheritage.com doesnt... At least there should be a message or something telling you wich of our confirmed matches have extra information on direct ascendants... This system is not that smart at all.
I've thought about this more in the last two years since I wrote that, and I don't think that ancestry.com has such a great system after all. Because it's possible to add everyone on somebody else's tree, it's way too easy for a beginner to add junk and end up with a nonsense tree. Most of what is on ancestry.com is junk. They have good scanned documents, but they are just added along with everything else that isn't so good. Whatever else anybody thinks of myheritage, their trees look a lot better and make more sense. It wasn't until I transferred my tree to myheritage from ancestry, that I started seeing a lot of obvious errors. A lot of information has been transferred either directly or indirectly, and hasn't been corrected. I saw one "Product suggestion" on this forum where someone suggested that they correct the dating system because they had found ancestors born in "BC" times. NO ONE alive today can do that. Not me, not them, not even the Queen can do that.
Because it's possible to add everyone on somebody else's tree, it's way too easy for a beginner to add junk and end up with a nonsense tree.
Yes. People copy without checking or investigating, so they copy ridiculous errors. I've seen the same errors repeated again and again in trees that overlap with mine. It's one of the reasons I don't pay much attention to smart matches, frankly. I check out a match, think, "Well, that's wrong, that's innaccurate, I have better information than in that tree and I'm just getting out of here." I won't confirm or deny.
I also see photos from my site repeated all over the place. I don't mind sharing, but it's polite to ask rather than just take.